Relationships, Love, and Passion
Relationships, Love, and Passion
Good human relationships are key to an individual’s happiness, success and enjoyment of life. Relationship trouble can occur not only in romantic pairings, but also in getting along with co-workers, other family members, friends, and minor acquaintances. Hurtful encounters and negativity can impact us in many ways. The Pilot Judgment® Assessment can show you where your approach to personal relationships can improve not only the romantic areas of your life, but your interactions with humanity in general.
The Relationship Killers
In a few words, the main obstacles to fulfilling relationships are frustration, stress, and clutter. Relationship frustrations arise from differences in values and choices. Stress can be created in the relationship itself, or caused by outside sources, or a product of one person in the relationship. Relationship clutter consists of all those extra pressures on a relationship that are unnecessary. Identifying your own relationship killers, even without the cooperation of your partner, will improve your relationship and your life. Even better if you BOTH join Pilot Judgment® – for if you do, you can opt to have the Crew Report identify the values and choices you both make that are fundamentally different, and a potential source of frustration. However, even if only one of you joins Pilot Judgment®, you will both benefit from the knowledge you gain.
Why You Cannot Find The “Right” One For You
You are a great catch, and you know it. You’ve followed the advice of happily married friends and relatives, relationship books, television doctors, and professional experts, and yet compatibility still eludes you. To this point, however, you have not been able to know those things about yourself that comprise your uniqueness. To this point, no book has been written about YOU, until now. After completing the Pilot Judgment® Assessment, you will be mailed a 200-page book that contains your scores and interpretations, and speaks directly to YOU. You will know yourself better, in ways you have never considered, and you will be in a better position to seek compatibility with others.
Making A Good Time Better
Beyond resolving relationship problems, turning a good relationship into a great one is possible through Pilot Judgment®. Finding those areas of your lives in which the two of you are greatly compatible, and those areas in which one of you can rely on the other, and the areas in which weaknesses can be identified and improved, will enrich your experience in ways you have yet to understand. Develop a deeper, more meaningful connection with each other and be true partners in your journey through life, together.
Non-Romantic Relationship Issues
It is not always the spouses and romantic entanglements that trip us up – sometimes, our lives are complicated due to relationships with people at work, other family members, friends and neighbors, or the people we encounter in our day-to-day happenings. What is it about some of these others that drive you nuts? Sometimes, you are unable to put a specific name to it, but there is just something about certain people that rubs you the wrong way.
We can help. Pilot Judgment® will not only tell you about your own tendencies, but also identify and explain those things that you find intolerable in others. By being able to understand those characteristics of other people that are incongruous with your own, you will be able to take steps to reduce the stress these encounters cause you. We may not be able to change others, but we can change how others affect us, and reduce the stress these relationships can cause us.
Case Study — Rachel and Paul, Married Couple
(Names have been changed to protect confidentiality)
Problem: Arguments and disrespectful behavior
Self-Analysis Prior to Assessment: She/He is difficult to get along with
Actual Assessment Results: Differences in values cause frustration
Rachel and Paul are a married couple experiencing more and more arguments as they spend more time together. Asked separately, they will list a number of things about the other person that drives them crazy, such as “She always loses her car keys”, “He always nags me about being late”, “She spends too much time on the phone with her crazy friends”, “He isn’t nice to my friends”. Paul would characterize Rachel as overly talkative, careless, and frivolous, while Rachel would characterize Paul as judgmental, gruff, and rigid.
Paul would acknowledge, however, that Rachel should definitely be the one to negotiate for a new car, and Rachel would acknowledge that Paul is definitely the one to research the car ahead of time to figure out which one they want to buy. Rachel discovers Pilot Judgment® and wants to try it, partly because she’s interested in seeing where she and Paul are different, and partly because she’s hoping she’ll score higher than him. Paul is not convinced and does not join.
Rachel’s results are a real wake-up call for her … she sees that she over-values people, scores highest in her people judgment, and very low in her Organization, Coping Skills, and Extrinsic (Tactical) Judgment. Reading about not only her strengths, but also about the areas in which she did not score well, the differences between her and Paul become very obvious. Paul never joins Pilot Judgment®, but even so, Rachel has a much deeper understanding of herself, Paul, and the dynamic of the two of them together. She now has a measure of her own traits.
Just in reading the details of each of the indicators, she can be certain that Paul is off-the-charts strong in Organization, Coping Skills, and Extrinsic Judgment … and by knowing that, she is starting to understand how he thinks and how he struggles to comprehend the things that are important to her. She is able to see why he freaks out when she loses the keys, even though it is not a big deal to her. She understands that he thinks long phone conversations about minute details of her friends’ lives is pointless, while to her, it is the greatest joy of her day. She understands why he is so adamant about keeping lists and following directions, while she prefers to wing it and take the day as it comes. By understanding this, she is less upset by his actions, and she is less likely to do things that upset him (she learns to keep track of her keys). Rather than feeling that she is arguing with him because he is just being difficult to get along with, she is able to know more about herself, and the knowledge she gained has given her a chance to focus on the underlying causes.
Also, by studying the areas in which she did not score as well, and knowing that Paul has strength in those areas, she is able to appreciate and trust his judgment more in those areas. But … NOT when it comes to counseling her friends or starting conversations, getting the best deal from salespeople, or dealing with the problems that people in their lives might cause. In those areas, she KNOWS she is the one who should be in charge. Her relationship with Paul is better than ever.